Of Rape ,Honor and Crime

The country cannot and will not forget Nirbhaya and the shocking rape. But I keep coming back to why rape makes a man feel so powerful? Then I read all the suggestions to cover up the women,keep from tempting the man and how to make sure “her modesty is not outraged” or “honour is intact” and I begin to ponder.. What if we did not make such a big deal about a women’s virginity in India?

Our traditional Indian culture tell the girl to dress in a way to not seek attention, sexy is a bad word and our virginity is a gift to our husband, not to mention all the build up about the first-night. This pressure is what the rapist exploits. The fact that he can teach her a lesson..her whole life is apparently ended because he managed to rape her? Why? What happens when a girl is in a car accident? Or even if she is robbed of her jewellery? Would you consider her tainted..her honour lost..or just a victim of an unfortunate tragedy?

We need to wake up and change our perspective as a society and let go of this undue hullabaloo about virginity and modesty. We are strong women. Sex should be a choice. Rape is a crime, an act of violence. It has nothing to do with our honour and modesty. We are seeking punishment for a crime with our heads held high. Anyone suggesting that our lives have ended after a rape, should be considered abetting the crime!

This is exactly what Nirbhaya has done. A heartfelt salute to this courageous girl who made sure these heinous criminals did not get away with this act and in the wake of it, shook the spirit of a nation of women, who have long accepted these degrading double standards.

One comment

  1. The whole idea of celibacy is bullshit. While there is no such constraints on men, women are expected to keep themselves virgin! Clearly its a concept started out by pervert men in ancient days and they have been successful by and large so far.
    And as bollywood phrases it, ‘izzat loot li’. As if a girl’s ‘izzat’ is in her vagina!


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