When someone asks you what are your values- Words like honesty, truth, integrity, courage , responsibility are quickly tossed out. But if you truly see what we seek…what seems to matters to us most is a mad pursuit of success.. the path to which is well laid from a good academic background, a competitive nature to do better each time , joining an ivy league school and then landing up with the best job..of course it doesn’t end there..the pursuit of a good home , an even better job are all waiting in line on the list of to-dos..
American journalist and pundit, David Brooks, talked about his realization that we all live our lives via a mixture of “resume” values and “eulogy” values. Resume values are the things you’d put on your resume – hard-working, ambitious, goal-oriented, etc. – while the eulogy values are the ones you (hope to) hear about at your funeral – kind, brave, generous, friendly, honest, loving. An eye -opening perspective?
This epiphany gives a clear answer to why even with most of our resume values are achieved, we still find ourselves empty and seeking, an uneasiness that begins to swell and grow inside of us…searching for answers to questions we don’t know. Given we ourselves are figuring out the haze, it becomes even more harder to be strong role models to our children.
So let’s sit and list our true value system clearly, so we know the difference between what we may be actively seeking outside and what we make need to work on on our inner self.
Reminds me of one of my favourite lines from the movie “The American President” with Michael Douglas
Lewis Rothschild: People want leadership, Mr. President, and in the absence of genuine leadership, they’ll listen to anyone who steps up to the microphone. They want leadership. They’re so thirsty for it they’ll crawl through the desert toward a mirage, and when they discover there’s no water, they’ll drink the sand.
President Andrew Shepherd: Lewis, we’ve had presidents who were beloved, who couldn’t find a coherent sentence with two hands and a flashlight. People don’t drink the sand because they’re thirsty. They drink the sand because they don’t know the difference